Choosing the right one – I don't want no fly guy, I just want a shy guy

People often talk about meeting the right one, finding the right one, how do you know he’s the right one etc…. the truth is, there is no “right one” out there just waiting for you so they can have a perfect relationship with you – with no issues. There are lots of bad ones, and there are lots of good ones, but it’s up to you to choose the right one for you- the one you will spend the rest of your life with. This is a series on choosing the right one –click here for the rest of the series.

ooooh do you remember that “Shy guy” song by Diana King… Just thinking about it makes me want to start doing the “roll” (is that what it was called?)… but you know what I mean…

But I don’t want somebody
Who’s loving everybody
I need a shy guy
He’s the kinda guy who’ll only be mine

O lord have mercy mercy mercy…

Sigh…okay before you think I’ve lost it… let me tell you why the song came to my mind. I was thinking about back in the day in secondary/high school, we all wanted that fun guy…you know the one… the one that all the other girls wanted, the one that seemed as if all the fun things just followed him wherever he went, the one that when he whispered in your ears all you heard was “hallelujah!” right before you fainted… the one that you could smell his amazingly wonderful cologne from miles away… yeah that “fly guy.”

But baby girl, let me tell you… listen carefully ‘cos that song was right. The fly guys may seem fun, but you may not be ready for what you get when you take them home.

There are a lot of good guys around, but the problem is that most of them just don’t come around. They’re too busy being shy, or “praying” to find out if you’re the one, and if they should marry you, and overanalyzing what your first name and their surname would look like together, before they even step up to introduce themselves…

While the “fly guys” just come up and ask you out. What do they have to lose? The worst that could happen would be for you to say no, and for them yeah it stinks, but they can just move on to the next thing…cos after all, it’s just a thing, ain’t nuffin’ serious!

But don’t fall for it, don’t fall for the fly guys. Don’t be flattered just because they approached you. They approached many before, and will approach many after. Yeah it may be fun…yeah your female friends may be jealous for a while… but just give it a little while…the “fun” won’t nurse your hurting heart when he doesn’t come home at night… because with commitment comes responsibility, and those are two words that “fly guys” don’t understand.

Choose wisely.

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