TWENTY-EIGHT (57 Ways to Beat Loneliness & Depression)
Pick Intimate Friends Wisely
We all long to belong, to connect, to feel like we are accepted for who we are. When we meet people who seem to accept us in all our “mess,” we get really eager. We want to turn them into best friends or sometimes we want to make them our spouses immediately. The problem with this is that it all takes time. It takes time to really get to know someone. It takes time to really know how you feel about someone. It takes time to feel like you can be comfortable with someone. It takes time to feel like you can truly trust someone.
You also have to make sure that the person as an intimate friend values the same things that you value. If you value honesty and integrity, and your intimate friend does not, there will always be disappointments. If you value chastity and your intimate friend does not, there will be times when your inner voice and your friend’s voice will be suggesting you do two completely different things.
Your intimate friend does not have to believe the exact same things you do, but they must have the same values you do, or else you will find yourself in some stranger’s house doing things you never dreamed of doing, and wondering how you got to this place.
Remember life is meant to be valued.