Finding the one (4): Let's test-drive each other

Last week I talked about the misconception people have that they will never be lonely again once they find the one. This week we will be discussing the paradox that is “safe-sex.”

For some reason we analogize human beings to cars, we have to test-drive a car to make sure it’s a good fit, so we have to test-drive people to make sure they are a good fit. The analogy is so absurd, it’s like trying to test a high school athlete to see if he will be great in the NFL, by watching his performance in high school game, or like trying to test what life would be like living in Alaska by just making your house as cold as possible for a few weeks. Yes people do it all the time, but it doesn’t make it any less nonsensical.

The only way to test whether two people will make ideal partners in a marriage is for them TO BE MARRIED. Granted there are some things that will help them (i.e. similar spiritual beliefs, similar child-raising beliefs, similar ideas on how to deal with money, and fewer previous sexual partners).

Then of course, there is no such thing as “safe sex” outside of marriage. Sex binds people together physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You don’t believe me? Well why did you (or do you still) find it so hard to leave that loser, even though everyone tells you he is not the best for you. Go ahead and cohabitate, after all it’s your life! It’s not affecting anyone else (except your mom and dad, the other person’s parents, your future children, their future children and etc.). Sex is not a private activity, it’s a societal activity, whatever you decide to do affects me, even though we may never meet.

Why not do something you have never done before. Do some research on sex outside of marriage. Do some research on the gift of sex to marriage, and start treasuring yourself more.