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Hey Babe… | iyasostuff.com
“Babe”
For some reason when I hear the word “Babe” my ears perk up…
I once gave a guy my number and the very first time he called, and left a message on my phone he called me “babe”…he later caught himself and apologized, but it left me wondering whether he was just desperate for someone to call “babe.”
There was another situation where I left a comment on facebook, and someone referred to me as “babe.” It was a cultural slang, I understood that, but I felt there was something demeaning about it. If it had been a guy instead of a lady that left the comment, would they have referred to him as “stud-muffin?” LOL…
Yes, I corrected him, and yes he had different excuses as to why “babe” was appropriate since even Jesus used it in the Bible. I guess he didn’t realize that Jesus only used “babe” as a reference to children, and not to women…but I digress…
There are times when it’s okay to let things go…but there are times when we must define ourselves no matter how much others try to re-define us…
So what do you think about the word “babe?” Are there other words that make your ears perk up? (like sexy, or hot)
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Does "missionary dating" work | iyasostuff.com
So as a single lady, there are times when you start to wonder if your standards are too high. You start to wonder about that one guy who seems kinda decent, but doesn’t quite agree with your standards on abstinence, or doesn’t quite believe in God the same way you do…
You start to rationalize that well…you know…he is a nice guy…and you have fun hanging out with him…and he says that he respects your standards, and will support your beliefs…
So you start to wonder if…maybe perhaps…you could you know…change him…help him to see the light…
Will dating him be that big of a deal?
I read this blog the other day and thought I’d share:
Is “Missionary Dating” Successful?
So what do you think? Does “Missionary dating” work?
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Book Review: Life Application Study Bible Devotional | iyasostuff.com
I love daily devotionals. I grew up reading Topz and YPs until…well…let’s just say I never stopped…
I love that someone took time out of their busy schedules to figure out a way to help me spend time with God. Once I get that taste of how good God is, once I get to spend five minutes with God with a devotional, I know I need more, and I just have to have more.
This is what the Life Application Study Bible Devotional* does to me. It encourages me to spend just five minutes with Jesus, but then I find myself spending even more time learning and enjoying his word. It is very insightful, and it takes you on a journey with Jesus, that you probably were too intimidated to begin. I like that they broke down complex language and made it simple for someone to just read and understand.
Each day you have a section of scripture, a section for “getting personal” and a section for “talking to God.” The getting personal sections helps you to ask questions of yourself to see if you really understand, and to see where you can learn to do things better.
Is this devotional a full meal? No it’s more like an appetizer. Will it dramatically change your life? Probably yes, if you use it as a stepping stone. Would I recommend it? Yes, it will definitely bring some clarity.
(fyi: be careful were you place this book because the picture on the cover may have you seriously craving moist, fresh, just-baked, mouth-watering bread… I’m just sayin’)
*Tyndale provided me with a free copy of the Life Application Study Bible Devotional to review
You can purchase the book here.
I hope you die happy | iyasostuff.com
Okay! Obviously this writing gig is really starting to pick up!
Would you like to die happy?
I was asked a few days ago to write a guest post on Ayo Adebamowo’s blog, so I thought hard about what I wanted to share…
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about finding purpose, so I knew that the post would have to be about that…long story short, I wrote about how to make sure you die happy…
You can click here to find out more…Please let me know what you think.
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Don't do these 7 things when you're on your period | iyasostuff.com
Ahh…the time of the month…your period…aunt flo…whatever you call it…
You know that time of the month when you are extra-sensitive and emotional, when everyone seems against you, but you feel as if you’re ready to give your most precious possession away…you feel as if you’re in love like you’ve never been before…
Well there are some things we get the urge to do when we’re on our period and I hope I can save you from yourself:
- Don’t call your EX – There is a reason he’s your “EX.” For some reason this time of the month makes you forget all the issues from the past, and makes you think that you can call him and all will be well…don’t do it…trust me, it never goes well.
- Don’t tell your “super-secret-crush” about how much you love him – Sure you’re feeling all the love right now, but there’s a reason you decided to keep it a secret. When you decide to tell him, you want to make sure you are telling him with all your reason intact, otherwise you’ll always regret it.
- Don’t watch romantic movies (read romantic books, or listen to romantic music) – Now ladies you know how romantic movies make you wish you had someone to hold on to and keep you warm…and (cue violin) etc. etc. etc….now add to that the rush of hormones…
- Don’t hang out at your “guy friend’s” place (especially if you know he’s attracted to you anyway) – So all this time you’ve stayed strong, kept him at bay, explained to him that you seriously only see him as a friend…but then you’re on your period, and you start thinking…well he’s not so bad…yes you may not sleep with him, but you may still do something embarrassingly inappropriate that you would wish you could go back in time…
- Don’t call that random guy that gave you his number in the grocery store- There was a reason you put his number in the trash in the first place…don’t go digging for it again.
- Don’t make life-changing decisions – Decisions to get married, to have sex, to have children…whatever…just wait until your period passes…then you can have the clarity to decide whether or not it’s worth it to have a one night stand with the one-toothed guy you met at the club
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Whatever you do, don’t call your EX!!!!!
What are some other suggestions that you have for single ladies…that we shouldn’t do when we’re on our time of the month?
Love is… | iyasostuff.com
I used to be afraid to tell people I loved them…the word “Love” was just so big and powerful and fearful, I just wasn’t sure whether I could use it and really mean what I said…but as I’ve grown, I’ve learned that although love is a big word, one that should be cherished and valued and not used improperly, it is a word that needs to be used. Love is one of those words that loses it’s value if overused, and loses it’s value if underused…so here is my experience with love…
Love is
- Encouragement
- Joy
- Peace
- Acceptance
- Patience
- Kindness
- Grace
- Gentleness
- Forgiveness
- Freedom
If you’ve found these qualities in a man…well you’ve found a good one…
If these qualities are not in the one you’re with…well…what are you going to do about it?
What other attributes would you associate with true love?
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I wish I had a bigger butt | iyasostuff.com
Bigger Butt 
This is a man.
This is a transgender man.
This is a transgender man who wanted a bigger butt.
This is what this transgender man did to get a bigger butt. ( inserted “a solution made of cement, superglue, mineral oil, and Fix-A-Flat tire mender”)
Please don’t look at him and wonder how he could be so dumb, because he’s not so different from you or me. We do it everyday, looking for ways to be perfect. discontent with life, upset at imperfection.
If we don’t learn to be contented we will end up like him, or him, or even worse – like her.
Go back, look at his face, pray for him that people will show him God’s love…and pray for us all too…because we’re all just one decision away from…this.
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Relationship Tips for the Holidays |iyasostuff.com
Relationships are all around us…we have family members, significant others, co-workers…etc. And the holidays can be especially challenging when dealing with these relationships.
Pam Farrel wrote an excellent post on the Women of Faith blog yesterday with relationship tips for the holidays.
What I really liked about it is that she used “C-H-R-I-S-T-M-A-S” to spell out the tips.
She began with:
“C – Center your heart on the deeper meaning of the holidays. This will help everyone become easier to get along with because the heart of the holiday will remain intact.
H – Hear what your friends and family are voicing as their stress, and listen carefully to them—a gift that will lower their stress.
R – Reach out as a family to help others in order to keep the proper perspective on what is really important in life.
I – Invest in …”
Click here to read the rest of it!
Leave a comment below and let me know what you think about it!
Making Money Stretch this Chrismas |iyasostuff.com
Hey Single lady with “grown folk bills”…would you like to save some money this Christmas?
Yes I said it! I know it sounds Impossible (but you know how I feel about that word)…anyway, are you excited about saving money?
I know, I know… it’s Christmas time again and yes again you’re not prepared for all the presents you ABSOLUTELY have to buy…well I have some solutions for ya!
- You can be like me and just not buy presents for anyone…this takes all the pressure away and if you decide to later buy something for someone, it will truly be a gift, and not an obligation.
- Choose one or two people to buy presents for…this will be challenging since some people will feel offended that they did not make the cut, but hey it’s your money! You decide what you want to do with it.
- Get creative on your choice of presents or the way you wrap and gift your presents to others
- You can create your own gift boxes by finding templates online, and using paper you purchase from the store, or using any paper (including newspapers) you find around your house.
- Trader Joe’s has gift tags on their new holiday shopping bags, which will be a great alternative for you. It will look very stylish and authentic.
save money, save money, save money! 🙂
Please leave a comment to let me know how it goes…
Oh and please let me know what you plan to get me this Christmas as well! I’ll be waiting expectantly! 😀
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