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It's not an inconvenience, it's your life

The other day I was in traffic and I got so upset. I felt like I was wasting so much time… the car in front of us was pumping out black smoke, the lanes had disappeared and it seemed the bus beside us was trying to make a baby with our car…

But all of a sudden I heard my self say “It’s not an inconvenience, it’s your life.” Being in traffic was not an inconvenience it was just where I was at the moment… that point in time in my life I was in traffic in lagos, Nigeria, and it was okay. In a few moments I would be at home eating dinner… a few moments before that I was at work eating lunch… Life is all about moments, some moments are more pleasurable than others, but that doesn’t change the fact that whatever you’re going through is a part of your life… it may be more challenging than you would like… but it’s okay… that too will pass…

So after I heard that statement I was able to relax and appreciate a few things… the sun was setting and it was so beautiful, all the different shades were so amazing… then there were the people lying under the bridge while I was on my way to my home… I was all of a sudden thankful for my home… and then the gas tank (in the car) was about three-quarters full, I couldn’t help but be thankful for my hubby and his decision to fill up my tank… so all of a sudden I realized that I had a lot to be thankful for… so I smiled and enjoyed that moment of my life, because even in its challenges it was still beautiful…

What moments in your life do you enjoy?

What moments don’t you enjoy? What do you think you can do to help you be more patient with those moments?

Remember to smile 🙂

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I don't want to be better than you… but I do plan to be great

I’ve never quite understood envy… don’t get me wrong, I understand the desire for what someone has, but I’ve never understood wanting it so badly that you’re willing to harm the other person just to make sure you get it… you’re willing to do whatever is in your power to ensure that if you can’t have it, they can’t enjoy it…

There is more than enough in the world for everyone who wants a piece to get a piece… yes there is competition, but the competition is mostly with yourself – to be the best you that you can be.

So if you see me working hard and you ever wonder if we’re in competition, please realize that I have not desire to be better than you… I only want to be better than I was, and I plan to be great…

And I pray for greatness for you too…

Who are some of the people in your life you pray for, and you expect greatness from?

Smile, smile, smile 🙂

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You're so beautiful

The other day I was helping my hubby get ready for work and he stopped and said “you’re so beautiful.” I love it when he does that. See he has to leave for work about one hour before I have to leave, so you can just imagine what I look like while I’m helping him… I probably had snot in my nose, slobber running down the side of my face, my hair was probably a mess… oooh and my breath was probably pungent enough to send the dogs barking… and he said “you’re so beautiful.”

When he said it, I knew it wasn’t just about how I looked, he was looking at who I was inside and appreciating the beauty that God placed inside.

So my darling ladies if no one has told you today just how beautiful you are, let me be the first to tell you: YOU ARE SOOOOOO BEAUTIFUL!

No matter what happens today, think about that, focus on that, because your beauty is beyond skin deep, it’s about who you are!

So don’t forget: YOU ARE SOOOOO BEAUTIFUL!

Welcome to the beautiful month of November.

Your smile looks good on you 🙂

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Because he loves you – “For Women Only” (Book Review)

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Wow! It’s been a while since I wrote a book review, but my friends you know that I have not stopped reading… I can’t stop reading, I just keep buying books… because books will keep you warm… hmmm… okay maybe not… but yeah I love buying books.

Recently I’ve been reading about marriage, relationships, being a wife etc… because y’all know My husband is my boyfriend, and I would like to keep it that way.

The book I recently completed is For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men. Now of course with that title, you know I had to get the book. I needed to know what my boo was thinking and how I could let him know that he was special to me everyday. I got this book before we married and I read a little bit at a time, and boy did I learn a lot…

I learned how certain marital acts are really important to him, and how they make him feel respected and cherished, I learned how he processes things in his mind, and for the most part the book is accurate… I learned so much from the book – but the one thing that shocked me… the one thing that helped me to understand my husband a whole lot better was in chapter 10 “What your man most wishes you knew about him.” [Insert big eyes and exclamation points] – yeah that really changed my relationship with my boo… but I won’t tell you so I don’t spoil it for you… Why not pick up a copy of For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men today.

by Shaunti Feldhahn (Author)
Hardcover: 224 pages
Publisher: Multnomah Books; Rev Upd edition (March 19, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1601424442
ISBN-13: 978-1601424440

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Why I went natural

I had been playing with the thought of going natural for many years (i.e. letting my natural hair texture go, instead of putting relaxers in it to straighten it). But I kept finding excuses. I was concerned that it wouldn’t look professional, I was concerned that it would be too hard to manage, I was concerned that guys wouldn’t find me attractive, I was concerned about many things…

Then in 2008 one of my good friends went to a job interview with an afro and she got the job, I saw many ladies around me deciding to go natural… and then I had one of the most interesting/life-changing breakups of my life… I decided that I needed to do something different… I needed to make changes… I needed to become a different person… I needed to get closer to God… and so one of the results of this decision to become a new person was my decision to chop off all my relaxed hair… and five years later, I’m more in love with my hair than ever before… It wasn’t easy, but oh I’m so glad I did it.

Oh and guess what? My husband loves my hair 🙂

How about you? What is your natural story?

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His purpose in life is not to amuse you

I once dated a guy and after a few weeks I told him that I was bored… well I expected him to be my entertainment and to keep me amused and entertained whenever I had free time… but his purpose in life was not to amuse me… it was my duty to amuse myself…

Everyone in this life has a purpose. Although we can all enjoy the journey together and try to have fun together, we can’t blame each other if we have not taken the responsibility to have fun by ourselves… My husband is a busy guy… he is busy because he is trying to accomplish some things for our family… so I leave him alone… because if he was spending all his time trying to keep me amused, we would never get anywhere, he would never accomplish his God-given purpose, and I would be constantly ungrateful and irritated…

So if you’re dating someone that is good to you, but you find yourself getting bored, it’s time to realize that it’s not them, IT’S YOU!!!

Remember to smile today 🙂

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Why Married People Need Married Friends

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what makes being married so different from being single… I used to feel as if not much changed except that the person that gets married is now responsible for more than just themselves, and when you decide to be friends with that person you also choose to be friends with the person’s spouse… so I never understood why single people would stay away from their friends after they got married… I mean I know married people get busy, but I guess you can still send text messages or something…

Anyway… marriage is wonderful, but it’s not easy… and it takes a very wise single person to understand that… there will be times a married person may want to complain about something, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they want to end the relationship… they’re just upset about something and want to voice their opinion. When two people are just dating, you can say “well, if it’s not working, just end it.” But when two people are married all you can say is “well you just have to talk and work it out.” (unless there is abuse).

Sometimes married people may not be able to do certain things because of respect for their spouse. Single people may not understand, and may feel that the married person is being controlled, but that is not necessarily the case, the married person is just trying to respect the feelings of their spouse….

It goes on and on… so now I realize that married people need married friends… but ofcourse they also need their single friends too. So for all you married people out there I pray that God will send you madly in love experienced couples that will encourage you in your walk… and for all you single people, I pray that God will help you to be wise and wonderful friends to all your friends!

Smile more! 🙂

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Something Bad is not about to happen

You know those movies that start out with happy families, and everything being happy, and then all of a sudden something tragic happens… I used to feel as if life is supposed to be like that. When things are going well and I’m happy, I used to get afraid and feel as if something bad is about to happen. I felt that being consistently happy is not normal and that it’s normal for things to go from good to bad…

But that is not true. Something bad is not about to happen. Going from good to bad is not normal, in fact that is a lie from the devil. When God created the world He made it good, and in the end when he rebuilds the world He will make it good again. Everything that God created, he saw that it was good, and it pleased Him.

Life was created to be good and fun and happy. Relationships were created to be good and fun and happy. So if your life is going well, be glad and enjoy it and expect things to get better, because the only kind of “normal” that God wants for us is for things to continuously get better.

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I gave him a small tip because…

We recently bought an item in our apartment and needed help with installation. They sent one of their guys to install, he told us that the item was faulty. Before we were able to pick up the item we had a yelling match with customer service… so we were not looking forward to going back to return it…. but we called and they told us to bring the item back… so we did….

On getting to the store, customer service told us we had to come back on Monday, that blah blah blah… We were not prepared to hear that… I went late to work on Friday to pick it up… my husband left work early to talk to customer service on Wednesday… so of course we began a screaming match…

Eventually they replaced the item with an even better item… we were glad… until installation time came and it was yet another battle, and the repair guy said once again that it was faulty. We were all tired and frustrated and were not looking forward to going back to the company and their nasty customer service…

Thankfully my husband had the wisdom to just call the company head, and he sent a new guy to install… they were able to trace the error, and found out that yes there was a manufacturing error, but there was a walkaround that it seems the first installation guy was not aware of…

I was so glad to finally have it fixed after almost two weeks, and I gave the new installer guy a small tip… but it was a fraction of what we would have given him if it had been fixed in the beginning… it wasn’t his fault, but he suffered for it…

It makes me think about what I will do as a person that may make the way smoother for my children, or may make the way worse for my children. Everything I do has consequences, not just for me and my immediate family, but for my generations… and to that I say… God help me! Eric Gjerde via Compfight

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The devil is the accuser

I have two best friends, one male and one female.

My female best friend doesn’t know she’s my best friend… we don’t even call each other best friends, but it there is someone who knows so much about me, and could blackmail me (if not because she has a heart of gold), it would be her…

My best friends annoy me sometimes… they want me to do things that are inconvenient for me… they say things that annoy me, or hurt my feelings, or make me angry…

There were times I wanted to end my relationship with both of my best friends. I felt the female one was selfish and insensitive (when in truth I was also quite selfish), and I felt my male best friend was being too annoying… I’m glad I didn’t end the relationships though…

See what I’ve been realizing lately is that most times when we have a disagreement it is more about miscommunication and misunderstanding. We misinterpret something that was said or done, because the devil tells us that they did it on purpose, just to hurt you… and you believe him…

Lately I’ve been trying to remind myself that my friends are really on my side, and really want the best for me. So when we argue, I shouldn’t let the devil tell me lies about why they said or did whatever they did, I should just ask them… because when it’s all said and done, the only one that benefits from disunity, disharmony and discord is the accuser, the devil… so why would I do something to benefit him?

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